The Ego & Positive Thinking
Today I want to talk again about positive thinking. I've been reading ‘The Power Of Now’ by ‘Eckardt Tolle’ and it is wonderful. He talks about the equality of opposites. What? He goes on - he mentions ego - quite a lot. In fact he maintains that “ego” which we know because of the band Skyhooks; is NOT a “dirty word” is, in fact, the be-all and end-all of our existence. It controls our life completely. If. We. Let. It.
- The ego must feel good
- It must feel in control
- It must feel complete
- It must have its own identity.
EGO in Control
Let's say you feel depressed. This might be a chemical imbalance in your body, but it might be your ego telling you it's not getting what it wants. This is probably not compatible with what you, the organs etc that make up your body, want or need; but it doesn't matter. The ego will make you unhappy because IT is unfulfilled.
And there is another side to this. If you make efforts, consciously, to be more positive (positive thinking), and to feel better, the ego goes into defensive mode. “Why are you doing this to me?” it says. “Firstly you deny my needs, and now you say you want me to be something different?”
Give up Its Identity
The EGO has identified (and it does this very quickly in most cases), with the depressed you. To become undepressed will require the ego to give up its identity. Of course, it will fight against this positive change you are attempting.
Therefore you will say. “Positive thinking doesn't work. I am still depressed. Why am I pretending that all is well when it obviously isn't? I need others to help me.” (ego again - because if others are helping or pitying, or empathising or worrying about me - then I matter) - the ego talking. You will remain depressed because the ego will make it so.
Positive thinking does not, of course, preclude the negative. It does not say, “If I think good thoughts the bad stuff will go away.” It (positive thinking) actually says, ”Learn from the setback whatever it maybe. Don't deny it, but don't dwell on it either.” Meet depression and anxiety head-on. Realize it is an ego issue and make plans to change it.
Two Sides of a Coin
Look at a coin. It has two sides. A coin cannot exist without two sides. One is the main side (the head) the other is the tail. Doesn't matter really, they are the one whole.
Cyclical Nature Of Being
What about the cyclical nature of being. There are ups and there are downs. These just ARE what life is all about. The two sides of our coin. They are only good or bad depending on what your mind tells you. Summer is fantastic if you are a beach type but if you don't like the heat, it is a terrible thing. The worst season.
On the other hand the opposite Winter is fabulous if you are a skier. But a person may feel that the cold is so bad that they may not be able to enjoy winter at all. The worst season.
Wouldn't it be great if you could sunbathe in the cool or ski in the warm, without the extremes?
The cold and heat are two sides of the same coin. They are required. One part cannot exist without the other. Resistance is futile.
The heat and cold are necessary. They are only evil if you let them be.
It is a fact of life but most people's bodies can adjust to the temperature range we experience. That is not to say we enjoy this difference, but it is part of our physiology.
Accept What We Cannot Change
We can help this by being positive about the fact that we cannot change the situation. We could, of course, move around (different parts of the country or different hemispheres), and have continual summer or winter, but for most, that's not possible or practical.
So just let it be. Love where you are. Be positive. Think positive thoughts. Be grateful because, “this too shall pass.”