I had my leg over the edge. 22nd floor. St Kilda Rd.
Up and Over
I was going to do it this time. Jump off the building. After the bankruptcy, the retrenchment and the Government taking almost all my payout, there was nothing left. It was hopeless. I had even lost the $1M insurance policy I had been contributing to for the last 48 years to leave my children a nest egg. I started this 13 years before they were even born. My very existence was a washout. 64 years of living - down the tubes. Or down to St Kilda Rd, at least. My life sucked. Big time. And it was not my fault!
The beginning of the Comeback
Not sure why. But I climbed down from that railing.
I went to the Doctor, and the Doctor said – "Take these drugs, See a Healer of the Head.” (You can sing this one to yourself if you like! And dance a bit too. It works!)
And I did.
AND Then: someone showed me a video of this man. (No Arms No Legs - No Worries
Nicholas Vujicic (Voya chic) An Australian Preacher and Motivational speaker born without any limbs. As a child, he struggled mentally and emotionally, as well as physically. Who would have guessed?
But he eventually came to terms with his disability.
Did You Get That? “He eventually came to terms with his disability.” How inspiring is that?
What was I thinking. My issues were NOTHING in comparison to that. Yeah, of course it's real allright. To me. But Gee wizz. Where do you go from here?
If he could do that – handle that, who could deal with the relatively insignificant issues that I was facing?
Inspiration To Go On
Since then. I have walked on hot coals. Twice. Really.
And as if I needed further inspiration, these 9 people kept cropping up in my reading.
Albert Ellis, Anthony Robbins, Dale Carnegie, Dr Phil, Dr Wayne Dyer, Jim Rohn, Shakespeare, Susan Jeffers and Zig Ziglar.
What do they all have in common I hear you ask? Let me explain.
They all believed in one simple truth. One that I had failed to understand Up until THEN!!
Let's read their own words so we can understand what this truth might be shall we?
Albert Ellis: In 1955 he developed REBT (Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy) the main principle of which was – A person is rarely affected emotionally by outside things, but rather by 'perceptions, attitudes or internalised sentences' about outside things and events.
Anthony Robbins: Whom the NY times calls 'The High Priest of Human Potential' says – There are two worlds. The EXTERNAL world which we can INFLUENCE, (We cannot control the external world) and the INTERNAL world which we do control. Therefore our ultimate significance in life comes not from something external but something internal.
Dale Carnegie: Happiness doesn't depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.
Dr Phil: Unlike the external factors that we have no control over, our internal factors are made up of our own reactions to the events in our lives.
Dr. Wayne Dyer: (Oh this one is really good!!!) Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.
Are you getting where this is going? I certainly was.
Jim Rohn: You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind. But you can change the set of your sail. The same wind blows on us all, whether we win or lose depends on the set of our sail.
Shakespeare: (Hamlet, Act II, Scene II) … there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.
Susan Jeffers: (in her best-selling book 'Feel the Fear, and Do it Anyway') says - Don't be deceived into thinking that by changing the external, the internal will be changed. It works the other way around.
Zig Ziglar: If you can dream it, you can achieve it.
What's it all about? What does it all Mean?
Seems to me that they are all saying exactly the same thing. And it is all about the simple truth I alluded to earlier. And that truth is:
“We Are The Boss of Us”.
“We Are The Boss of Us”.
Nick and Blame.
Nick Vujicic could have blamed his extrinsic situation. He had more reason than most. But he didn't. He dreamed of a bigger and better future for him and his family. Yes. That's right. He has a wife and children.
I am reminded here of the Serenity Prayer. I guess you have all heard of it? (Not from Alcoholics Anonymous - I hope).
“Grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The Courage to change the things I can, and The Wisdom to know the difference.”
The Victim and the Blame (Victim) Game - Work, Weather, Relationships etc:
Speaking of that, How many times have you heard people play the victim game?
Complaining that they can't be happy because of their
the bad weather,
Unhappy marriage or a strained relationship?
There's always someone or something else in charge of their lives. Someone else who is to blame. "It's not my fault." is their constant refrain.
"What is it with this stupid phone? Or that driver is an idiot? "
I think you know what I mean.
How many times have you said this kind of thing yourself? I know I used to. A lot. Still do - far too much.
But - I am getting better. I am aware of it now - and that is the first step.
Here I am. It's Approximately 2 years later and I am still here. Getting better every day.
1. I'm taking back control.
2. I'm not sitting around lamenting how bad my life is.
3. I'm not accepting the idea that things just happen to me.
That's being a victim.
I remember Susan Jeffers - “Don't be deceived .... she said.
Don't be deceived into thinking that by changing the external, the internal will be changed. It works the other way around.”
This is clever stuff!!
I bought an AWESOME plaque while I was in Bali recently.
Live Like you will Die Tomorrow.
Dream like you will live forever!!
I plan to live my life from now on based on these simple thoughts, and I am going to think of Nick Vujicic, and just get on with it.
CAUSE - Being in Control
I will be the cause of what happens to me, not the victim of the circumstances in which I find myself.
I will be the CAUSE of what happens to me, not the VICTIM of the circumstances in which I find myself.
I am doing it!!!!! And IF I CAN DO IT!!! Who else do you think can do it?